Thank you for all the responses! First, if I can figure out photobucket, i will try to show the tank. When we received the nem, we put on sand bed, lights at 50%. He moved behind the rocks to this spot. He never moved since. It is the spot in the tank that has the least amount of light, and flow. This IS my first nem, and I did know they excrete and eat from same spot, but was told they would move around until they found a spot they liked. He has never moved, so I left leave this side of the tank alone. I do not think he is getting enough light, but I was told not to force him to go where I want him! Why in the world does he want to be in the dark....no flow? For the first few weeks, he kept his foot in this dark, flowless spot, and stretched up to sit between the rocks at the surface. But, a day after I fed him, he retreated to this spot by foot, and has only peeked out a tiny bit. His tentacles near the surface look better than the ones near the sand.
Something is coming out of him. It looks a lot larger than anything I've seen come out before, but if it's really possible he's just spitting out the scallop still (5 days now), then I would really like to give him time to come back out!
I have the following in this tank: 2 damsels, 2 clowns, a newer coral beauty, 2 peppermint shrimp, 1 cleaner shrimp (who hangs out near the nem most of the time, and stole the piece of shrimp I first tried to feed, a green goby, a bicolor Blenny, and countless blue leg crabs, snails, slugs, bristleworms, etc. I used all live rock, and have added more clean up crew myself.
Corals: candy cane, hammer, colt, toadstool, rhodactus, ricordia, mushrooms, war coral, and zoas. None are close to the nem.
Here are my thoughts/questions:
1. The damsels are jerks. When the nem was out and happy, he would always retreat a little when the dumb damsels would go chasing by his foot. Could they have hurt him? If so, I just wait to see?
2. I do not know how to tell how big his mouth is? I have a picture of him in the first week where people told me he was stressed cause his mouth was "open" and out. Is his mouth the entire middle where no tentacles are? Or just the little hole? He is 4" across tentacles when fully open. If his mouth is just the "hole", then I did feed too big a piece. But, I watched him pull it in the mouth and disappear in a matter of minutes. I thought he must have been really hungry?
3. So if he is puking guts, how long could that take? Won't he die without light?
4. How can I tell if he is still attached to rock, if he's not stretched to surface? His foot is in the exact same spot it always has been, except now it looks puffed up where it meets the rock. Not sure if that's because he's detaching, or just cause he's shrunk so close to rock? I touched the foot (where it met rock) with the wood skewer. He recoiled, and the foot didn't move from rock. Doesn't that mean he's attached still?
5. I can't reach him without moving rocks. I can't sniff him, touch him with hand to see if sticky,....nothing. Am I at a point where I should move rock to see if he's even sticky/stinky? Or wait and hope?
Again, he's my fav thing in my tank. I would do anytging to save him! But, if there's nothing I can do....and he is in fact dying, I really can't risk the tank! This has been an extremely expensive adventure...and I'm not rich! lol. I don't smell anything different from the surface, but he's below rocks...right below overflow box. Really hope I can post pics! I REALLY want to know if it's puking guts, or melting! Would melting happen from the foot? All I can see is a thick (thicker than his tentacles) LONG (wraps around foot) glob of stuff. It looks like it's coming from his foot, but it may be wrapped around underneath. It looks way bigger than the globs I've seen come out before. The piece of scallop was literally smaller than my pinky nail. It's hard to imagine that this long string of gunk was the scallop! Could melting look like a rope of gunk? I'm going to try photobucket now!