Sunnier, you have people here who love the hobby, there is no hate here. You can see it by the folks that feel bad about what they feel they have to tell you, by all of the apologies they start off with IE: I'm not picking on you, or sorry to tell you, etc. We enjoy the hobby and take pride in helping others enjoy it also. Many people start off with less info than they need, or worse, bad info. You've come to the right place, we'd love to help you be successful, that's what all the posts trying to help you out are about. This is kind of a "pay it forward" type of place. Most of us were told by others, very similar things, that we are now telling you. It's a way to give back.
You're welcome here if you don't change a thing, but if you want to be successful, the help the folks here will give will be invaluable.
No need to give up, you may find having fewer specimens allows you to observe what you have better, and actually enjoy the hobby more, not to mention the satisfaction of success. Not to mention, letting us feel good, about helping you out.