If you are going to take shots with actinics you will never get a realistic look. Even shooting RAW and adjusting the white balance will not compensate for the intense blue color.
If you do want to go that route, try and find a neutral grey card to add to the shot and use it to adjust white balance.
A better way is to shoot with your lights having some white component to them. Even if it is not balanced and leaning more towards blue you will still have a better chance of adjusting them.