Normal alk levels for NSW at a salinity 1.025-1.026 is around 8-9 dkh. If you are still having issue when you are at normal alk levels then it most likely has to do with co2. So take a peek at the things that effect that. So calcium reactor?? or is the tank getting enough fresh air, or is it next to a heater vent? furnace? or other things similar that produce co2. One easy fix would be to run your air intake from your skimmer to the exterior. That way you are venting in fresh air.
Also when it comes to PH its the swing you really need to keep an eye on, a couple degree swing is not an issue at all.
Mojo