Not sure where to start sorry its long

semigodd154 · 03-12-2004, 02:45 PM

Ok here is the situation a lot of the members here will recognize me from RAG back before this site started when this site started i became a member just to move with the family so to speak. Well as you can see by my post count I havent been terribly active on the boards and there has been a very good reason. I will come to it i promise but first a little remembering (bear with me this is hard) I am shaking while i type this so excuse the whole lack of professional english punctuation skills. Some of you will remember that sept 20 2003 I introduced the world to Jake Takoda Hill and had never been happier some of you after hearing of his background dubbed him the miracle man (thank you Reeflady). Well to get to the point I am sad to say that jake passed away Dec. 10th he passed away in his sleep and I found him that morning when it was time to feed him. We are still waiting on some details but we are thinking medical malpractice. He went to the doctors the day before because of a cold and they gave him 4 shots before he left the office the next morning he was gone. So this is why I have not posted in a while. I myself have been recovering you never think of having your children pass away before you do. If there is a silver lining to any of this being that it was christmas time I asked my family to take any presents that they had gotten for him and get a refund for the gift and donate it to the childrens miracle network so hopefully it might make one sick child happy for a day well my boss heard of this and (since i work at walmart ) he announced it where i work and without my knowing about it he started taking public donations and after one month they had taken in more than $5000 they made a custom plaque with his name on it a memorial of sorts and gave it to me and my family (presented by as representative of the cmn) very classy organization i might add I have been asked numerous times why we donated the money to the cmn instead of keeping it to pay for expenses and I simply say that i would like for people to know what kind of person Jake would have been when he grew up and i think if we can help one child be happy for one day before they succumb to illness then it would have made jakes life a little happier. So as I realize how long this post has gotten. And im sorry I would like to ask all of you to look at your children and give them a big hug and tell them that you love them and realize how precious that they are because you never know hopefully you will never go through this because there is no pain like it in the world. Ok I will close now and hopefully I can start posting back to the aquarium side of the board My tanks helped like you wouldnt believe just to relieve some stress Thank you all for being there and God Bless.

Shaun

Gina · 03-12-2004, 03:58 PM

As I read your post, I started to cry. I am so so sorry that you lost your son! I saw something similiar to this on the news and am wondering now if it was you? Not that it really matters.

I can't even imagine the loss that you have felt. I had a daughter 25 years ago who after lectures from my mother was put up for adoption and we have recently found each other and are forming a relationship. Loosing your son, must be the worst thing in life that you could ever imagine going through. We never think that we will outlive our children.

My heart goes out to you and I wish you well upon your recovery. Your son will always be with you in your heart. Keep him close.

caja · 03-12-2004, 04:12 PM

shaun, that is the most devastating thing any parent will ever have to endure. I am so sorry for you loss and I know mere words cannot help to ease the pain of you son's passing.

time heals the pain, but the memories of your baby will be there forever.

please persue the issue to find the reason for your son's passing. natural causes or other wise, you need closure. best of luck and be well.

jojopus · 03-12-2004, 04:41 PM

I just dont have the words...............

caja · 03-12-2004, 04:50 PM

I'm wondering what the four shots were that the baby was given. Our grandbaby Logan who was diagnosed with RSV when he was just 3 weeks old never recieved a shot. oral antibiotics, steroids and breathing treatments at the hospital. followed by a continuing course of antibiotics and steroids at home along with the breathing treatments.

VINA DEL MAR · 03-12-2004, 04:56 PM

Your letter make me shed some tears!!.God sometimes needs more Angels there up in Heaven!My worse fear in that something like that could happens to my kids!
I'm very sad for your loss!
God bless you.

mnreefman · 03-12-2004, 05:02 PM

words dont fit here..... however cmn will be getting a donation from me. in your sons honor.... wow

Tarasco · 03-12-2004, 05:49 PM

I am deeply sorry for your loss. You have my most sincere condolences. I think that this is the right group of people to come to in your most difficult time.

Witfull · 03-12-2004, 08:37 PM

Shaun, my deepest condolences to you and your family. it is at times like these we need one another to lean on. we are here to talk to either through the boards or via pm. i felt your pain and had a tear well in my eye, and thats not easy, as i have seen mans inhumanity to man firsthand. each and every one of us should say "I love you" to our family members each and every day. for it could be the last. that is something i live by.

i agree that having a tank is great for distracting the mind, if only for a short time.

if you need any help or some one to talk to, reach out to a friend, family, or any friendly ear.

Curtswearing · 03-12-2004, 09:22 PM

There's nothing I can say to make you feel better right now so I'm just going to say how terribly sorry I am for your loss. I cannot imagine the stress you were going through nor the grief you are now experiencing. I remember the RAG thread well and I'm now very sad.

I am proud of what you have done and I greatly admire the fact that you are reaching out to help others by reminding them to TELL your children (and relatives, and friends, etc.) how you feel about them. Yes, they know you love them but telling them means the world.

I will also make a donation to the Children's Miracle Network to honor Jake.

Your family will be in my prayers.

NaH2O · 03-12-2004, 09:46 PM

You have my deepest sympathy. I remember the RAG thread very well, and I'm deeply saddened by your loss. There really isn't anything I can say to help you feel better at this moment. Just know if you need some friends to lean on - we're here. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

nivek · 03-12-2004, 11:04 PM

Shaun, my wife and I would like to extend our deepest condolences to you and your family.

Montanareefer · 03-12-2004, 11:27 PM

Shaun find comfort in the Lord and in your family at this time! I feel your pain and we are here if you need us! My wife and I have you and family in our prayers!

Maxx · 03-13-2004, 01:00 AM

Shaun,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I could not begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you and your family.
You have my deepest sympathies,
Nick

ReefLady · 03-13-2004, 12:12 PM

Shaun,

There is absolutely nothing I can say except that I am so very very sorry.

I'm at a complete loss for words, but my heart aches for you. I hope you and your family are able to find strength and peace. I am so sorry.

03-12-2004, 02:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
semigodd154 Cabbage Leather Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: amsterdam ny Posts: 392 View Gallery Karma Komment	Not sure where to start sorry its long Ok here is the situation a lot of the members here will recognize me from RAG back before this site started when this site started i became a member just to move with the family so to speak. Well as you can see by my post count I havent been terribly active on the boards and there has been a very good reason. I will come to it i promise but first a little remembering (bear with me this is hard) I am shaking while i type this so excuse the whole lack of professional english punctuation skills. Some of you will remember that sept 20 2003 I introduced the world to Jake Takoda Hill and had never been happier some of you after hearing of his background dubbed him the miracle man (thank you Reeflady). Well to get to the point I am sad to say that jake passed away Dec. 10th he passed away in his sleep and I found him that morning when it was time to feed him. We are still waiting on some details but we are thinking medical malpractice. He went to the doctors the day before because of a cold and they gave him 4 shots before he left the office the next morning he was gone. So this is why I have not posted in a while. I myself have been recovering you never think of having your children pass away before you do. If there is a silver lining to any of this being that it was christmas time I asked my family to take any presents that they had gotten for him and get a refund for the gift and donate it to the childrens miracle network so hopefully it might make one sick child happy for a day well my boss heard of this and (since i work at walmart ) he announced it where i work and without my knowing about it he started taking public donations and after one month they had taken in more than $5000 they made a custom plaque with his name on it a memorial of sorts and gave it to me and my family (presented by as representative of the cmn) very classy organization i might add I have been asked numerous times why we donated the money to the cmn instead of keeping it to pay for expenses and I simply say that i would like for people to know what kind of person Jake would have been when he grew up and i think if we can help one child be happy for one day before they succumb to illness then it would have made jakes life a little happier. So as I realize how long this post has gotten. And im sorry I would like to ask all of you to look at your children and give them a big hug and tell them that you love them and realize how precious that they are because you never know hopefully you will never go through this because there is no pain like it in the world. Ok I will close now and hopefully I can start posting back to the aquarium side of the board My tanks helped like you wouldnt believe just to relieve some stress Thank you all for being there and God Bless. Shaun

03-12-2004, 03:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
Gina Moderator Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Indiana Posts: 8,823 View Gallery Karma Komment	As I read your post, I started to cry. I am so so sorry that you lost your son! I saw something similiar to this on the news and am wondering now if it was you? Not that it really matters. I can't even imagine the loss that you have felt. I had a daughter 25 years ago who after lectures from my mother was put up for adoption and we have recently found each other and are forming a relationship. Loosing your son, must be the worst thing in life that you could ever imagine going through. We never think that we will outlive our children. My heart goes out to you and I wish you well upon your recovery. Your son will always be with you in your heart. Keep him close. __________________ Gina and Mark's 75 Visit Our Sponsors Gina's Cube Gina

03-12-2004, 04:56 PM	#6 (permalink)
VINA DEL MAR Torch coral Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: NJ Posts: 514 View Gallery Karma Komment	Your letter make me shed some tears!!.God sometimes needs more Angels there up in Heaven!My worse fear in that something like that could happens to my kids! I'm very sad for your loss! God bless you. __________________ 90 gl. reef ready all glass tank,sump capacity 15 gl,2 400 watts radium bulbs,2 03 actinics 110 watts VHO,2 50/50 110 VHO,ozone reactor,sterilizer and the most important of all;Lots of love for my tank!

03-12-2004, 05:02 PM	#7 (permalink)
mnreefman Reef Lobster Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 1,393 View Gallery Karma Komment	words dont fit here..... however cmn will be getting a donation from me. in your sons honor.... wow __________________ http://reefrock.com

03-12-2004, 05:49 PM	#8 (permalink)
Tarasco Plate Coral Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 724 View Gallery Karma Komment	I am deeply sorry for your loss. You have my most sincere condolences. I think that this is the right group of people to come to in your most difficult time. __________________ Mike "I saw what the governor makes. That's like four hands of blackjack." -- Charles Barkley on why he wasn't seriously considering becoming the Governor of Alabama

03-12-2004, 04:12 PM	#3 (permalink)
caja Cabbage Leather Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Northern VA Posts: 371 View Gallery Karma Komment	shaun, that is the most devastating thing any parent will ever have to endure. I am so sorry for you loss and I know mere words cannot help to ease the pain of you son's passing. time heals the pain, but the memories of your baby will be there forever. please persue the issue to find the reason for your son's passing. natural causes or other wise, you need closure. best of luck and be well.

03-12-2004, 04:41 PM	#4 (permalink)
jojopus Tubeworm Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Akron, Ohio Posts: 28 View Gallery Karma Komment	I just dont have the words...............

03-12-2004, 04:50 PM	#5 (permalink)
caja Cabbage Leather Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Northern VA Posts: 371 View Gallery Karma Komment	I'm wondering what the four shots were that the baby was given. Our grandbaby Logan who was diagnosed with RSV when he was just 3 weeks old never recieved a shot. oral antibiotics, steroids and breathing treatments at the hospital. followed by a continuing course of antibiotics and steroids at home along with the breathing treatments.

03-12-2004, 09:22 PM	#10 (permalink)
Curtswearing Golden Moray Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: St. Louis, MO Posts: 2,596 View Gallery Karma Komment	There's nothing I can say to make you feel better right now so I'm just going to say how terribly sorry I am for your loss. I cannot imagine the stress you were going through nor the grief you are now experiencing. I remember the RAG thread well and I'm now very sad. I am proud of what you have done and I greatly admire the fact that you are reaching out to help others by reminding them to TELL your children (and relatives, and friends, etc.) how you feel about them. Yes, they know you love them but telling them means the world. I will also make a donation to the Children's Miracle Network to honor Jake. Your family will be in my prayers. __________________ In memory of Fluffy, please pause before hitting enter---being nice is free. Click for ReefKeeping FAQ'S Click for Product Reviews Click for Photo ID Gallery http://curtcpapfs.com/downloads/1Curt.jpg

03-12-2004, 09:46 PM	#11 (permalink)
NaH2O Contributing Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Indianapolis Posts: 1,928 View Gallery Karma Komment	You have my deepest sympathy. I remember the RAG thread very well, and I'm deeply saddened by your loss. There really isn't anything I can say to help you feel better at this moment. Just know if you need some friends to lean on - we're here. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. __________________ ~Nikki~

03-12-2004, 11:04 PM	#12 (permalink)
nivek Cabbage Leather Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Penang, Malaysia Posts: 367 View Gallery Karma Komment	Shaun, my wife and I would like to extend our deepest condolences to you and your family. __________________ "Hey Yoda! Stop playing with my orange lightsaber!" - Master Nivek

03-12-2004, 11:27 PM	#13 (permalink)
Montanareefer Has been struck by the ban stick Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 2,334 View Gallery Karma Komment	Shaun find comfort in the Lord and in your family at this time! I feel your pain and we are here if you need us! My wife and I have you and family in our prayers!

03-13-2004, 01:00 AM	#14 (permalink)
Maxx Manta Ray Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: St Louis Mo Posts: 3,079 View Gallery Karma Komment	Shaun, I'm so sorry for your loss. I could not begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you and your family. You have my deepest sympathies, Nick __________________ "Chaos, confusion, despair...my work is done here." ...Some guy named Murphy.... A good friend will come and bail you out of jail...but, a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, "Damn...that was fun!" Reef Sanctuary Knowledgebase (Answers to all your questions and then some!)

03-13-2004, 12:12 PM	#15 (permalink)
ReefLady Golden Moray Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: New Hampshire, USA Posts: 2,029 View Gallery Karma Komment	Shaun, There is absolutely nothing I can say except that I am so very very sorry. I'm at a complete loss for words, but my heart aches for you. I hope you and your family are able to find strength and peace. I am so sorry. __________________ ~ Teri -------- "You do not need a parachute to skydive. You only need a parachute to skydive twice."

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