OT: Women of RS Thread

[BoomerD]

"If I only had a brain"

[thelastmucci]

This is what I feel would make a decent relationship.

Take pride in what you do:
For example stay at home moms AND dads are cool. Yes they do have a purpose in life and shouldn't be put down by their sig. other. Lots of time their doing the grunt work as it were and taking care of kids and doing all the stuff that needs to get done.

Is the other person important too....absolutely without them their would be no income and the whole family would be living in the streets. But again it's give and take.

I'll use my own parents as an example

My dad stays home all the time b/c he's baisically cirppled. He gets SSDI from the govt and his meds and doc visits all from the VA. He does do some work but after years and years of bullwork his body can't take it anymore. So he does some acting on the side and yes they are VERY long days but the payout is decent.
Now when me and my sis were born my dad would do all sorts of work didn't matter. He helped my mom (who at that point was stay at home) but he actually gave up two of his dreams to take care of us and make sure his family was secure. Yes it was noble but at the same time I look at him now and he's like a broken old man.

Now my mother on the other hand..again she's had some crap jobs. But the roles have reversed and now she's the bread winner (although since november she hasn't had a job and we've hit somewhat hard times [edit NO ONE SEND ME MONEY I'LL GET BY]) My point was that she now is doing what your husbands are doing and just sits in front of TV and complains about how much the house sucks. Is it dirty and ugly sure it is. But she could help by dusting once a month. My dad does EVERYTHING. Dishes, laundry, cooking, fixer upper. pays the bills anything you can think of he can do. The only thing he doesn't do anymore is the landscaping...his back just can't take it...do you think my mother lifts a finger....NOOOO and then she gets mad when my father got a landscaper. The only other thing he won't do is clean...he figures why should he have to do that when he does literally everything else.

Basically I'm the same way...although I don't cook. But I clean, dishes, laundry, pay bills etc. I've had a good role model and I think that's part of the reason I am who I am. That's why it pisses me off so much to see those moronic stereotypical guy commericals where the guy is a moron.


But that brings me too my point. (yes I know finally) There's needs and requirements from both genders and it's a combined effort. Ladies honestly your husbands sound like the typical "mans man" who won't lift a finger. And to my breathen (sp?) next time a girl asks you to do something in the relationship..give it a shot...who knows she may reward you later.

[rlcline76]

Originally Posted by sasquatch

Ha, simple thing really, marry outside your species, everything is exciting

And illegal!

[kathywithbirds]

OMG this is hysterical.

I don't know why we are different. Yes, I complain about Mike. He complains about me. BUT... I really believe I should have been born a guy. I am the slob here, not that I'm leaving rotten food around but I leave dishes on teh computer desk, cups in teh living room, dishes in teh sink and clothes on the floor. BUT I do more of a "swipe" cleaning. I pick up all dishes once a day and cart them to the kitchen. Same for laundry and other stuff.

Mike cannot sit if the place is a mess. At least the first floor. I, on the other hand, will sit amid piles of laundry if I'm too tired to do it right at that moment.

So MY problem is I don't seem to have enough energy to do all the stuff that "should" be done. (and who is determining what "should" be done?) I get accomplished the most important thigns on my daily to do list and if there's more oh well.

soooo... am I a guy in disguise or what?

[BarbMazz]

Originally Posted by BEELZEBOB

and oh yea, im stickin around

na na na na naaaaaaa naaaaaaaa!

I like you, Bob. Stick around. I need a really good "comforting" hugger. Did you tell Cristy Cole thank you for me?

Your thoughts make perfect sense to me, and I agree with them.

The older I get, the more I think marriage is a totally unnatural state, and I wonder who in heck thought it up. And I'm not even mad at him today. Heck, he's in Chicago with one of the spawn.

[fishnu]

Hey Doni, gonna close THIS thread?

I spent 25 years as a mid six figure bread winner, who would do laundry cook and do dishes.

Then I cut back on the laundry dishes and cooking.

Then I cut back on the marriage.

There is no bad sex, just the wrong people. Man Laws was fun. Alot of this is just hostile.

BYE.

[kathywithbirds]

Originally Posted by BarbMazz

[color=darkorchid]The older I get, the more I think marriage is a totally unnatural state, and I wonder who in heck thought it up.

OH OH OH OH OH GET ME STARTED BARB....

the church thought it up.




OK thread now closed I brought up religion.

[kathywithbirds]

OK everybody take a deep breath, stare at their tanks for a while...

oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

[rlcline76]

Originally Posted by fishnu

Hey Doni, gonna close THIS thread?

I spent 25 years as a mid six figure bread winner, who would do laundry cook and do dishes.

Then I cut back on the laundry dishes and cooking.

Then I cut back on the marriage.

There is no bad sex, just the wrong people. Man Laws was fun. Alot of this is just hostile.

BYE.

I am not even addressing this anymore. This is dumb, it is an OT thread. I'm done. If you guys want to go on attacking each other it is all on you.

[dfurbee]

Originally Posted by BoomerD

"If I only had a brain"

Sort of reminds me of Wizard of OZ

[BarbMazz]

Originally Posted by fishnu

Hey Doni, gonna close THIS thread?

I spent 25 years as a mid six figure bread winner, who would do laundry cook and do dishes.

Then I cut back on the laundry dishes and cooking.

Then I cut back on the marriage.

There is no bad sex, just the wrong people. Man Laws was fun. Alot of this is just hostile.

BYE.

Hostile?? Wow. Here I am just having a discussion I had no inkling of hostility. Gives an idea how different perspectives are.

[SJS]

I have to say I am enjoying the different perspectives given here. I handle hundreds of divorces every year. Many reasons why people split up, money, sex, drugs, but mostly they grow apart. I see it as lack of communication. Relationships are not easy - I get ticked at my family members from time to time - and let them know - we argue then resume loving each other. I get ticked at co-workers - express ourselves and move on. We should listen and really hear what our loved ones are saying. Often relationships fail because we dont hear what is being said. I'm happy in my relationship - livin in sin, no need to get married - we are both independent people and have our own interests, we spend time together, and spend time apart. That's a good thing in my opinion. My advice - learn to hear what others are saying - and learn to say what you really mean....

[kathywithbirds]

Steph, you cite wisdom about communication.



But, I have to tell you.... there is a discrepancy in your signature. You are waiting for Bunny to gain world domination and improve the economy, leading to more disposable income to spend on lighting, yet you threaten Bunny's family with a horrible water-borne death.




Rebuttal, counselor?

[BEELZEBOB]

whos being hostile?


this is great!

[BoomerD]

BoomerD wanders into the girls room...



BoomerD wanders back OUT of the girls room...quickly.