OT: Women of RS Thread - Page 11

kathywithbirds · 03-05-2008, 05:59 PM

hey Nikki did they put you on magnesium sulfate when/after she was born because of the preeclampsia? I lost a solid 3 or 4 days there, can't remember a thing. No, wait, I can remember not being able to move.

nikkipigtails · 03-05-2008, 06:01 PM

nope...my bp was constantly in the 160's/130's range but only when upright. If I layed down for 5 minutes on my left side, it was normal. I was in the hospital for 3 days though.

kathywithbirds · 03-06-2008, 10:30 PM

OK I'm gonna use this thread to rant a little. WHAT IS IT AT AGE FOUR???? This week has been a nightmare. NO NO NO NO NO is all I hear, breaking her toys, purposely defying me, backtalking, tantrums, continuing to do what i told her to stop and not just a second while she redirects, PURPOSELY.

I did a lot of research online and followed The Nanny's plan of putting "the rules" on a board on the wall and if she breaks a rule she goes in time outon the stairs. Well guess how often she's in time out? ALOT!!! the only positive I see is that she does stay on the step. After I have to drag her kicking adn screming there, she does stay.

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mothergoose · 03-07-2008, 07:52 AM

Hang tough. It is a normal "phase" in childhood. She will soon be back to her normal sweet self.

blue_eyes53813 · 03-07-2008, 08:09 AM

Its the age. The daycare kids at that age are turkeys. Some days are just plain terrible... The only difference is I get to send them home, lol

BarbMazz · 03-07-2008, 08:19 AM

Four is one of the tougher ages. I remember that giving choices seemed to help a lot. If you think hard, you can make just about EVERYthing into a choice. I think they want to have some personal power and control.

Try to steer things to a positive light so there isn't as much chance for a fight.

And, natural consequences are good! Breaking a toy is a perfect example; if she breaks a toy she can't play with it anymore. You can sympathize; "oh, honey, what a shame! Your toy is broken and you can't play with it anymore! What happened?" It tends to make them think about why the toy broke (in 4 yr old terms of course), rather than think about being punished for breaking the toy.

I'm sorry to say, you're going to have to grit your teeth and find the strength to outwit her! You can do it! You do reefing, and know PATIENCE.

heels92 · 03-07-2008, 08:40 AM

Sorry,
Saw the thread topic and thought it was for a calender or something...lol.

BarbMazz · 03-07-2008, 08:42 AM

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Originally Posted by heels92

Sorry,
Saw the thread topic and thought it was for a calender or something...lol.

Shoo!! Out! OUT!! LOL

heels92 · 03-07-2008, 08:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BarbMazz

Shoo!! Out! OUT!! LOL

I'll leave, but it is an idea. Why don't you all discuss it among yourselves...

BarbMazz · 03-07-2008, 08:51 AM

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Originally Posted by heels92

I'll leave, but it is an idea. Why don't you all discuss it among yourselves...

Sheesh! You're BAD! Go discuss your calendar idea on the Men of RS thread, why dontcha?!

heels92 · 03-07-2008, 08:54 AM

Well, I'm sure a Men of RS calendar would not sell very well...but

I know "Scat.." Im off to work now anyway.

Darrell

nikkipigtails · 03-07-2008, 09:49 AM

Great....I can't wait for that stage.

kathywithbirds · 03-07-2008, 09:58 AM

Oy. She was actually really good this morning. I never know lately what kind of mood she'll wake up in. She's in a Pre-K 4 program and it's doing her good as far as socialization and structure. We're pretty lax on stuff like organized mealtimes. It's also a place where she can do a variety of stuff I might not think of like pasting scaled peices of paper on fish outlines (what texture goes with the fish) and stuff like that. And it gives me a break during the day!!!

She's really a smart kid. I looked up a bunch of suggestions like what you mentioned, Barb, the "natural" consequences, which are kinda common sense but you need pointed out you know? And I read them to Mike and Erin last night. So later in bed she quizzes me about it. The example was a 4 year old who refused to hold mommy's hand to cross the road to go to the park so they didn't go to the park. You could see the wheels turning. Cracked me up.

So she's at school and Mike's at work -- he has a varied schedule, usually home more often that not driving me nuts -- so WHAT am I gonna DO with myself? (other than laundry, clean bathroom, organize bedroom, wrap a b-day present, change the birds...)

BarbMazz · 03-07-2008, 10:11 AM

I hear ya, Kathy, I hear ya! It's a blessing that she's smart but also makes for more of a challenge, that's for sure. Thank goodness for that pre-k program!

She doesn't like to hold your hand? No problem! I had one like that as well! Have her hold YOU... somewhere other than your hand.. make it her choice. Gives her the power, and she's safe. You can give a little reward when she is consistent in holding on. It's small, but it puts her in control of her own safety, which is something you want to teach anyway. Shows her she is very capable of taking care of herself, and she is!

Today, maybe you could play on RS! Hey, maybe you could get banned!!

nikkipigtails · 03-07-2008, 01:27 PM

I can't wait for Olivia to go to Pre-K. Honestly though, I hope we move before then because in our area, she'd probably be smarter than the teachers.

03-05-2008, 05:59 PM	#151 (permalink)
kathywithbirds Social Darwinism victim Join Date: May 2007 Location: The Hood, NJ Posts: 5,714 View Gallery Karma Komment	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread hey Nikki did they put you on magnesium sulfate when/after she was born because of the preeclampsia? I lost a solid 3 or 4 days there, can't remember a thing. No, wait, I can remember not being able to move. __________________ (\ /) This is Bunny crying. ( ; ; ) He thinks Brainy and Bunnina . ' ' ...are having an affair. "Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials." ~Lin Yutang Start: 163.5 Current: I'm not looking at the scale, I'm not looking at the scale, I'm not looking at the scale...

03-05-2008, 06:01 PM	#152 (permalink)
nikkipigtails Golden Moray Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Hillbilly Hell, AL Posts: 2,252 View Gallery Karma Komment Add yours!	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread nope...my bp was constantly in the 160's/130's range but only when upright. If I layed down for 5 minutes on my left side, it was normal. I was in the hospital for 3 days though. __________________ Our 180 Gallon Family Project Nothing cures any ailment like a big piece of chocolate cake.

03-06-2008, 10:30 PM	#153 (permalink)
kathywithbirds Social Darwinism victim Join Date: May 2007 Location: The Hood, NJ Posts: 5,714 View Gallery Karma Komment	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread OK I'm gonna use this thread to rant a little. WHAT IS IT AT AGE FOUR???? This week has been a nightmare. NO NO NO NO NO is all I hear, breaking her toys, purposely defying me, backtalking, tantrums, continuing to do what i told her to stop and not just a second while she redirects, PURPOSELY. I did a lot of research online and followed The Nanny's plan of putting "the rules" on a board on the wall and if she breaks a rule she goes in time outon the stairs. Well guess how often she's in time out? ALOT!!! the only positive I see is that she does stay on the step. After I have to drag her kicking adn screming there, she does stay. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH __________________ (\ /) This is Bunny crying. ( ; ; ) He thinks Brainy and Bunnina . ' ' ...are having an affair. "Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials." ~Lin Yutang Start: 163.5 Current: I'm not looking at the scale, I'm not looking at the scale, I'm not looking at the scale...

03-07-2008, 07:52 AM	#154 (permalink)
mothergoose Serpent Star Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: indiana Posts: 226 View Gallery Karma Komment Add yours!	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread Hang tough. It is a normal "phase" in childhood. She will soon be back to her normal sweet self.

03-07-2008, 08:09 AM	#155 (permalink)
blue_eyes53813 Hey!Its not my fault Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Lancaster, Wisconsin Posts: 6,349 View Gallery Karma Komment Add yours!	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread Its the age. The daycare kids at that age are turkeys. Some days are just plain terrible... The only difference is I get to send them home, lol __________________ 265 Gallon Reef built into basement wall. Lighting = 6x250 watts MH, 2x96 watt PC ,and 2x140 watt VHO for a total watt of 1,972 watts . New addition on 4-14-07 of 100 gallon sump and 100 gallon refugium. I think I have lost my mind. Gotta love this hobby Vicki Life is like a pathway of untrodden snow. Be careful how you step in it for every mark will show Definition of FRIENDSHIP: All lives touch other lives to create something new and alive My tank chronicles. http://www.reefsanctuary.com/forums/...wall-reef.html

03-07-2008, 08:19 AM	#156 (permalink)
BarbMazz Madame Klanganator Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Near Cleveland, Ohio Posts: 3,206 View Gallery Karma Komment Add yours!	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread Four is one of the tougher ages. I remember that giving choices seemed to help a lot. If you think hard, you can make just about EVERYthing into a choice. I think they want to have some personal power and control. Try to steer things to a positive light so there isn't as much chance for a fight. And, natural consequences are good! Breaking a toy is a perfect example; if she breaks a toy she can't play with it anymore. You can sympathize; "oh, honey, what a shame! Your toy is broken and you can't play with it anymore! What happened?" It tends to make them think about why the toy broke (in 4 yr old terms of course), rather than think about being punished for breaking the toy. I'm sorry to say, you're going to have to grit your teeth and find the strength to outwit her! You can do it! You do reefing, and know PATIENCE. __________________ A Snail's Pace Beginning: an old lady's first reef http://www.reefsanctuary.com/forums/...tml#post366161 ~not knowing how near the truth is we seek it far away~

03-07-2008, 08:40 AM	#157 (permalink)
heels92 Serpent Star Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Mount Pleasant, SC Posts: 238 View Gallery Karma Komment	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread Sorry, Saw the thread topic and thought it was for a calender or something...lol. __________________ 65 gal reef with fish. 250 14k mh, 2 2x96in actinic pc, berlin protein skimmer, 5 gal sump, uv sterilizer, phoban reactor. soft, lps, and some sps corals. 2 gobies, 2 clownfish, anemone, coral beauty, fridmani, dusky jawfish, mandarin, brittle starfish.

03-07-2008, 08:54 AM	#161 (permalink)
heels92 Serpent Star Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Mount Pleasant, SC Posts: 238 View Gallery Karma Komment	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread Well, I'm sure a Men of RS calendar would not sell very well...but I know "Scat.." Im off to work now anyway. Darrell __________________ 65 gal reef with fish. 250 14k mh, 2 2x96in actinic pc, berlin protein skimmer, 5 gal sump, uv sterilizer, phoban reactor. soft, lps, and some sps corals. 2 gobies, 2 clownfish, anemone, coral beauty, fridmani, dusky jawfish, mandarin, brittle starfish.

03-07-2008, 09:49 AM	#162 (permalink)
nikkipigtails Golden Moray Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Hillbilly Hell, AL Posts: 2,252 View Gallery Karma Komment Add yours!	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread Great....I can't wait for that stage. __________________ Our 180 Gallon Family Project Nothing cures any ailment like a big piece of chocolate cake.

03-07-2008, 09:58 AM	#163 (permalink)
kathywithbirds Social Darwinism victim Join Date: May 2007 Location: The Hood, NJ Posts: 5,714 View Gallery Karma Komment	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread Oy. She was actually really good this morning. I never know lately what kind of mood she'll wake up in. She's in a Pre-K 4 program and it's doing her good as far as socialization and structure. We're pretty lax on stuff like organized mealtimes. It's also a place where she can do a variety of stuff I might not think of like pasting scaled peices of paper on fish outlines (what texture goes with the fish) and stuff like that. And it gives me a break during the day!!! She's really a smart kid. I looked up a bunch of suggestions like what you mentioned, Barb, the "natural" consequences, which are kinda common sense but you need pointed out you know? And I read them to Mike and Erin last night. So later in bed she quizzes me about it. The example was a 4 year old who refused to hold mommy's hand to cross the road to go to the park so they didn't go to the park. You could see the wheels turning. Cracked me up. So she's at school and Mike's at work -- he has a varied schedule, usually home more often that not driving me nuts -- so WHAT am I gonna DO with myself? (other than laundry, clean bathroom, organize bedroom, wrap a b-day present, change the birds...) __________________ (\ /) This is Bunny crying. ( ; ; ) He thinks Brainy and Bunnina . ' ' ...are having an affair. "Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials." ~Lin Yutang Start: 163.5 Current: I'm not looking at the scale, I'm not looking at the scale, I'm not looking at the scale...

03-07-2008, 10:11 AM	#164 (permalink)
BarbMazz Madame Klanganator Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Near Cleveland, Ohio Posts: 3,206 View Gallery Karma Komment Add yours!	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread I hear ya, Kathy, I hear ya! It's a blessing that she's smart but also makes for more of a challenge, that's for sure. Thank goodness for that pre-k program! She doesn't like to hold your hand? No problem! I had one like that as well! Have her hold YOU... somewhere other than your hand.. make it her choice. Gives her the power, and she's safe. You can give a little reward when she is consistent in holding on. It's small, but it puts her in control of her own safety, which is something you want to teach anyway. Shows her she is very capable of taking care of herself, and she is! Today, maybe you could play on RS! Hey, maybe you could get banned!! __________________ A Snail's Pace Beginning: an old lady's first reef http://www.reefsanctuary.com/forums/...tml#post366161 ~not knowing how near the truth is we seek it far away~

03-07-2008, 01:27 PM	#165 (permalink)
nikkipigtails Golden Moray Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Hillbilly Hell, AL Posts: 2,252 View Gallery Karma Komment Add yours!	Re: OT: Women of RS Thread I can't wait for Olivia to go to Pre-K. Honestly though, I hope we move before then because in our area, she'd probably be smarter than the teachers. __________________ Our 180 Gallon Family Project Nothing cures any ailment like a big piece of chocolate cake.

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