OT: Advice for a sore heart?

[Cassette87]

Well, my girlfriend of two and a half years is off to college. She's been gone for slightly over 24 hours, and I'm not going to lie I'm feeling really down right about now. We've been apart for periods of time before, the longest time being 3 weeks, but since the psychology of this has changed, it's really hitting me where it hurts. See, before we'd be apart, but always be assured we were coming back together for the longer period of time. In other words, being apart was the abnormal, and now it's swapped, and being together is like the once in a while thing, but with that flip comes the emotional flip... sorry if this isnt' making sense. She's about 2 hours away, so I can certainly visit a few times a month, hopefully twice at least. It's just difficult being with someone and sharing everything with someone everyday and having it disappear I know it's hard to get across exactly what I'm feeling right now;..nor do i know what sort of advice I'm looking for.. i guess anything that can help.. I appreciate it you guys.

See... the fact that i feel good enough about you guys to post something like this proves what a good community we have here You're all great

[blue_eyes53813]

Ohh I'm sorry... Distance makes the heart grow fonder. It will all work out. 2 hours away isn't all that bad.. Could be worse.. Get a calling card and keep in touch daily is all you can do

[lcstorc]

The phone and internet are your friend.
My husband and I did all of our dating from and hour and a half away from each other. I only saw him on weekends and we took turns on who drove where. It can work but will take more effort. Consider it a test of sorts. If you can make it through this you have a very strong foundation.

[kinghokus420]

if you have webcams, you can use skype.com to video call each other. its totally and 100% free. i use it daily. usually to australia or chicago. i just got 2 webcams and headsets yesterday for 35$ at wally world. it really is a kick butt way to talk. my father in law gets to see my kids everyday and we have a 16 yr old from aust moving here so we get to know him before he arrives.

[Raf]

Sounds like the making of the movie Road Trip 2



IMO, distance and absence are good things in a relationship from time to time. My previous relationship lasted for 10 years, 3 of those were at a distance. I would phone, visit and most of all, msn message all day. It was good. Then when we saw eachother, it was spectacular. Don't worry, at least you are 2 hrs away and can visit often, and vice versa.

[CATALYST]

Can you move an hour away? Then you'd be an hour from work and an hour from her. Then it's only half as bad.

[kathywithbirds]

Not to sound like I'm beating you up, but we each cheated on the other when we went away to college. We started going out in late HS, and I guess the lure of the wide world was too much.

Then again, that was the late 80s, early 90s so I'm dating myself (gee I can't get away from these puns can I), there was no internet or IM or webcams or cell phones. Phone contact was when the roomates weren't on the phone or through the pay phone when there were quarters free of the beer fund : )

It was a tough time but we realized we'd rather stay together. We've been married for 13 years now.

[boozeman]

If you love something...set it free
If it comes back...it was meant to be



....and if it doesn't come back...hunt it down j/k

[shale]

I agree with Lynn.

My fella and I have been together for.... 11 years this past Tuesday. We went to college in different states and were about 5.5 hours away. We lived together for about two years after college, and then I moved away again for grad school/work putting us at a traveling distance of 7.5 hours. Now he's moved farther south and we're about 4 hours away from each other and we're both really excited about it.
Just take it one day at a time. Don’t let the loneliness become overwhelming, and remember that you aren’t the only one who’s feeling it. Phone calls, email, and instant messenger: these are your friend. Expect some distance, expect some conflicts in your schedules and don’t worry about it too much. You’ll both change, you’ll both grow. If you’re lucky like I have been you’ll be able to do it together, despite being physically separated.

[caitrina]

Originally Posted by Cassette87

. It's just difficult being with someone and sharing everything with someone everyday and having it disappear I know it's hard to get across exactly what I'm feeling right now;..

I know that feeling all too well, but in a different way so make the best of it, communicate as much as possible, successful long distance relationships happen everyday and you two aren't that far and the distance makes the coming together again sweeter. You learn to appreciate the other more.
Sorry you are hurting...