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Paendora · 09-21-2006, 08:57 AM

My son was 8 when I got a call from a mom. She was checking up on a story her son told her, and shared with me that they were having troubles with honesty and theft in their home. When my son found out his friend tried to implicate him, he distanced himself.

Now the boys are 16, and I ran into the mom recently. This same young man has been in two juvenile detention centers already, and they very unsure of his future.

Nothing beats being actively involved - and Blue eyes..regardless of the outcome, you were honest with the parents. What they chose to do with that information is up to them. And your child saw good examples of meeting confrontation head on with a calm approach.

Children learn more from what we do than what we tell them to do.

Best of Luck,
Susan

misbehavior · 09-21-2006, 08:59 AM

I am a Behavior Analyst by trade (work with K-12 in psycho-ed). Vicki, I think you are correct in your thinking. The fact that the parents are in denial may say something about why the child is the way he is.

lcstorc · 09-21-2006, 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Paendora

My son was 8 when I got a call from a mom. She was checking up on a story her son told her, and shared with me that they were having troubles with honesty and theft in their home. When my son found out his friend tried to implicate him, he distanced himself.

Now the boys are 16, and I ran into the mom recently. This same young man has been in two juvenile detention centers already, and they very unsure of his future.

Nothing beats being actively involved - and Blue eyes..regardless of the outcome, you were honest with the parents. What they chose to do with that information is up to them. And your child saw good examples of meeting confrontation head on with a calm approach.

Children learn more from what we do than what we tell them to do.

Best of Luck,
Susan

Very well said!!

blue_eyes53813 · 09-21-2006, 01:31 PM

Thank you all,,, It helps knowing I made the right decision... Thank you

sasquatch · 09-21-2006, 10:44 PM

You have money just lieing around??????where you live?

blue_eyes53813 · 09-22-2006, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by sasquatch

You have money just lieing around??????where you live?

No, my son actually has a lock safe.. it has a digital code # lock thing on it.. The other kid loved to try to guess the combination and my gullible son told him the combo and forgot to change it.... the kid came back the next day and took the $.... So my son learned another valuable lesson.. Never trust anyone.

sasquatch · 09-22-2006, 10:20 PM

Lucky for the prison system and me, no kids.However that thing about a mother bear and her cubs is coming to mind, and never cornering a wild animal, Kudos to you for doing the proper thing, hopefully you sons lesson will pay off big later in life

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09-21-2006, 08:57 AM	#31 (permalink)
Paendora Tunicate Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Amarillo TX Posts: 24 View Gallery Karma Komment	Re: OT... Parenting help,,, would you call.. My son was 8 when I got a call from a mom. She was checking up on a story her son told her, and shared with me that they were having troubles with honesty and theft in their home. When my son found out his friend tried to implicate him, he distanced himself. Now the boys are 16, and I ran into the mom recently. This same young man has been in two juvenile detention centers already, and they very unsure of his future. Nothing beats being actively involved - and Blue eyes..regardless of the outcome, you were honest with the parents. What they chose to do with that information is up to them. And your child saw good examples of meeting confrontation head on with a calm approach. Children learn more from what we do than what we tell them to do. Best of Luck, Susan __________________ ___________________ Susan 75 gal reef tank started up Feb 2006 85 lbs live rock, 8 fish, growing collection of corals and 2 teenagers that make saltwater stuff seem easy!

09-21-2006, 08:59 AM	#32 (permalink)
misbehavior Midas Blenny Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 122 View Gallery Karma Komment	Re: OT... Parenting help,,, would you call.. I am a Behavior Analyst by trade (work with K-12 in psycho-ed). Vicki, I think you are correct in your thinking. The fact that the parents are in denial may say something about why the child is the way he is. __________________

09-21-2006, 01:31 PM	#34 (permalink)
blue_eyes53813 Hey!Its not my fault Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Lancaster, Wisconsin Posts: 6,920 View Gallery Karma Komment Add yours!	Re: OT... Parenting help,,, would you call.. Thank you all,,, It helps knowing I made the right decision... Thank you __________________ 265 Gallon Reef built into basement wall. Lighting = 6x250 watts MH, 2x96 watt PC ,and 2x140 watt VHO for a total watt of 1,972 watts . New addition on 4-14-07 of 100 gallon sump and 100 gallon refugium. I think I have lost my mind. Gotta love this hobby Vicki Life is like a pathway of untrodden snow. Be careful how you step in it for every mark will show Definition of FRIENDSHIP: All lives touch other lives to create something new and alive My tank chronicles. http://www.reefsanctuary.com/forums/...wall-reef.html

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sasquatch Brunt of all Jokes~ Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: the very farthest west coast of canada Posts: 8,917 View Gallery Karma Komment Add yours!	Re: OT... Parenting help,,, would you call.. You have money just lieing around??????where you live? __________________ castawayreefers.com

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sasquatch Brunt of all Jokes~ Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: the very farthest west coast of canada Posts: 8,917 View Gallery Karma Komment Add yours!	Re: OT... Parenting help,,, would you call.. Lucky for the prison system and me, no kids.However that thing about a mother bear and her cubs is coming to mind, and never cornering a wild animal, Kudos to you for doing the proper thing, hopefully you sons lesson will pay off big later in life __________________ castawayreefers.com

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