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Originally Posted by kathywithbirds  I don't agree with that either. I'm a little more the other way, expose them somewhat so they do understand there's danger out there, and maybe they'll be a little more apt to be able to protect themselves or respond appropriately if an adult is not immediately available.
A little off the subject, it kind of gets me when people go on about how cute my little one is to her (she is, of course : ) ... I always tell her being pretty helps but it's more important to be smart. Having good looks will open doors, admitted, but being intelligent enough to know if those are the doors you want is much more important. |
That is a lot more like my line of thinking and what I try to do with them when they are here. Unfortunately they get punished there for what they do here. Fortunately the oldest who told on everybody for everything just left for school. The other three mind their own business and I keep a pretty close eye on what they do and don't do and their laptops are routinely scanned to see where they have been. Basically I allow them fredom but they know I am watching. So far this has worked. Plus they get to talk to their friends etc. (LOL they call from my cell most times and I save the numbers. LOl They are well aware I do it and laugh at me for it.)
As to the pretty part, I agree. All 4 of my step-kids are very good looking and that scares me to. I want their minds to develop much more than their appearance but actually it fit with the original post. A good looking kid who's pic is on the net somewhere is much more likely to become prey in some fashoin. It scares me but I don't know what else I can do other than keep my eyes and ears open.
The advantage to allowing them some freedom is that some will actually come and tell you what is going on and even ask for advice. I would much rather they come to me if something is going on. They don't feel like they can talk to their mother at all since she just wants to put them in a glass cage.