[BoomerD]

Hi ron, I too am a reef-a-holic, (although currently on the wagon) the current "best wat" to set up and maintain a fish tank is with lots of porus live rock, (1.5 to 2 lbs per gallon of tank is the norm) and a good protein skimmer. Many also believe in a deep sand bed (dsb), of about 4 to 6 inches thick of nice sugar fine aragonite sand, because in that bed, de-nitrifaction can and does occur, turning nitrates into nitrogen gas, which bubbles harmlessly into the atmosphere. However, there is also a separate group who believe that the DSB will eventually become a nutrient sink, and cause tank problems down the road. Unfortunately, a shallow sand bed offers none of the benefits of the DSB, and presents some extra problems for maintenance.
Trickle filters are extremely efficient nitrifaction (biological ) filters, but become massive nitrate producing factories, which is bad for reefs. Very few people actually use the de-nitrate towers you refer to. As I remember from the 90's, they tend to be a lot of work, and can actually wipe out your tank if or when they crash.
As coop mentioned, lots of people set up a separate refugium and grow macroalgaes for nutrient export, as well as "pods" which are an excellent source of natural food for your fishes.
What do you want to house in your tank? Keep in mind, that the saltwater recommendations for stocking are much less than freshwater. You are advised to only have 1 inch of fish (measured at it's typical adult size) per 5 gallons. That means your 60 gallon should safely house about 12" of fish. Again, that's measured as adults, even though when you obtain them, they may be much smaller.
Your livestock will determine your lighting needs.
Anemones are considered to be an "advanced hobbyist" thing, in part, because your tank should mature for about 1 year before adding one. That allows the tank to go through the small cycles and phases that is a normal part of maturing. Plus, it gives the hobbyist time to learn how to properly care for his/her tank, to learn about the fish and inverts, as well as get the equipment to successfully house them. Many of us go through a never-ending upgrade process.